Occasionally, you hear of partners Manipulating their other half. One of their weapons of choice "gaslighting"
These master manipulators ignore all rationale of their partner and make them question theirs perception in a very unilateral way.
The victim will then ask, " I'm I crazy?" "Yeah, I guess I could've misheard," their ability to judge becomes skewed.
It's obvious when a partner is explicitly abusive, but gaslighters actually take good care of their of partners, making it hard to make judgement call from a distance.
If you suspect that you are a victim gaslighting, check if any of the following apply to you:
A. YOUR PARTNERS TALK TO YOU ALONG THE LINES OF THE FOLLOWING.
1. "I did so much for you. How could you be like this"?
2. " you wouldn't know because you're young.
3. "Why do you take things so serious"?
4. " We're going through this because you did---------?
5. "I'm saying this because I only want the best for you"
B. YOU FIND YOURSELF DOING ONE OF THE FOLLOWING.
1. You worry too much about what your partners would think.
2. You apologize a little too often
3. You don't want to disappoint your partner
4. You constantly ask yourself: " can I talk about this with them"?
5. You rationalize must of your partner's bad behavior.
If you checked off more than five of these you are likely a victim of gaslighting. If more than seven, then you need to rethink the relationship
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