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Arranged marriages work better than the ones you walk around to seek for a wife (love marriage.( you don't have to deceive urself by lying to the word LOVE,,,People need to understand that no man or any woman is particularly meant for any man or woman.
An arrange marriage is the one planned and agreed by the families or guardians of the couple concerned while love marriage is one which is driven solely by the couple, with or without consent of their parents, as opposed to arranged marriage.
Arranged marriages were very common throughout the world until the 18th century. See link Back in those days, mummy and daddy don't fall in love, don't know each other and may not even had see each other before marriage and still, their marriage work better than Love Marriage according to research.
In the past our grand parents normally pick who guys should get married to and in those days such marriages had solid foundations and lasted even much longer than the ones today.
What most people call LOVE today is nothing but lust,deception,fraud and manipulation!
Have you not be wondering, why our mummy and daddy marriage last longer! According to research 95% percent of nowadays marriage (love marriage) doesn't last longer than six (6) months. The rate of divorce is far higher in western world where you are free to choose your partner than in a place like Indian where there marriages are arranged.
I have an Indian female freind, when she came to Nigeria, we talked a lot about this marriage and she told me that" love start and grows as you stay with your partner" i.e the love may not be there initially, though she reasoned with all my counter argument about this, she told me that "apart from the culture stuff of arraged marriage that they (indians) are still faithful and loyal to there spouse than the western world.
More than 50% of marriages in Nigeria are arranged marriages. But the divorce rate when compared to the USA or Canada is less than 10% after 30 years. While canada has 40% divorce rate
What's New things will you experience when you date for some Times before getting married to him/she? You must have practice all those things people do in marriage and there would be nothing new to do that why the rate of divorce is high.
What you read so far is tips of icebergs. So, grab a grass of wine and let me tell you the reasons why arrange Marriage is better
There is an adage that say 'what an old man sees sitting down a young man sitting down a young man cannot see standing up. parents/elders, Whenever they wanted to choose a partner for their son/daughter, they would usually choose a person from the following criteria:-
1) Near location : so that both parents can watch over their son/daughter
2) Both sides of the elders have to be in good terms (usually they would choose someone they are befriends with for a very long time.Both families have detailed information about the person, his family, health issues, family history etc.
3) Financially stable
In this case both man and woman whether they love each other or not, have to behave well.
Arranged marriages are often more successful because both parties come in with low expectations, and thus put in substantial efforts to make the best of a would be bad situation.
On the hand, in 'Love marriages', focus is on the selection (pre-marriage) process, and less effort is input into the marriage itself, likely because they feel they have found the right partner and everything else should work itself out from here onwards. At the first sign of trouble, they usually question their selection, instead of seeing it as an inevitable bump that should be overcome.
An arranged marriage is most preferable because you have detailed information about the person, his family, health issues, family history etc.
In arrange marriages both sides are so intertwined that it makes it a bit more difficult for either party to misbehave. There were several arranged marriages in the bible and they lasted. An arrange Marriage Is the one God approved. However, there are a many arranged marriages in the Bible, most notably Isaac and Rebekah’s marriage.
In that case, a trusted servant was sent by Isaac’s father, Abraham, to find a suitable bride from his own people because he did not want Isaac to take a wife from among the heathen Canaanites (Genesis 24). We see from Rebekah’s responses that she possessed many godly traits, and she was clearly God’s choice for Isaac.
Any marriage that is arrange Marriage is blessed my God almighty
you don't have to deceive urself by lying to the word LOVE,,,People need to understand that no man or any woman is particularly meant for any man or woman.Also there is that need to appreciate the fact that a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage,,
Therefore, I prefer an arranged marriage that would inspire or ignite my LOVE,,, you think otherwise, comments below
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