What To Do If You Mum Is Cheating On Your Father.

Some body once asked me " my mum is cheating on my father. What should I do? " this is a tough question.

I posted this questions in one of the social media forum but the responses weren't satisfying. Many say " I should mind my business and let the issues at rest" after so much reasoning I understand that their reasons behind their opinions could be the fact that, if the person in question told his father, it might lead to a divorce or one bad thing that lead to another and In which, he will be held responsible for it. Well nevertheless, they are right but it would be more dangerous if the person in question neglect the issue. In this post I'm going to tell you what to do if you find your mum cheating on your father. How you can resolve issues without war.

It is very wrong to let the issue at rest and wrong also to disclose it to your father. If you left the case at rest your dad might loose your mum to another man or she might secretly bear children of that man to your father . If it is in Africa, where there are custom and norms, rituals, etc, it might lead to the dead of your father and even family members including children. What I mean here is that, Whenever and wherever the wind blows you will have your self to blamed if you let the issues at rest. 

Here are two possible outcomes, if you tell your mum what you know she is going to ruin all your lives if she does not change what she is doing. Do not tell your dad either about this as it would only start a big war.

This is what you should do, if your mum is legally married to your father, try to get the details informatiin of the man whom she had been cheating with. Such as, name, address of where he stay, phone number. Gather as much proof that will convince the man that truly you know he has been sleeping with your mum. Look for somebody who has a very high status in the community tell the person your intention that you just want to threaten him to stay off from your mother in which you don't want your father to know. Provides all the details cheating proof to that person and let the person go and meet him secretly. The person should let him know of what will happen to him-(the usual thing that is done to any man that committed adultery) if he does not stop. After you might have done this, he will start avoiding your mum with immediate effect.

Another thing you can do is to get a lawyer. Lawyers are well respected in a society. Review your intentions to the lawyer you have chosen. Let him know that, you only want the man to avoid your mum in which you don't want your father to hear about it. Provides the neccessary evidence ( cheating evidence) of the claimed you made against him to the lawyer. The lawyer will file a case of adultery against the man. The lawyer should threatened to sue him to court if he does not stop sleeping with your mum. The lawyer should review to him what will happen if the court found him guilty. Make him to know that he must be found guilty by reviewing to him the evidence. He will have no any other options except to avoid your mum.

Another thing I want to say here that you can do, if you mum is a Christian and attend a church, forward the issue to her local church pastor. Review your intentions to the pastor that you don't want your dad to hear about it.  Pastors carry the wisdom of God and I'm very sure they Will know how to handle the issue.

It should just be threat if not, the case will expose and you father will held about it. The outcome of it you will not like. Don't back up the threat with action. For instance, if he failed to avoid your mum after the threat and he still go around sleeping with her, choose to undergo any other threat on this post. He will realize how serious the issue is it and he will be tempted to stop. But if he failed to stop dispite all threat being made, reports the issues to your father and carry out the neccessary action but I'm very sure he will stop when he had been threatened once or twice. 

At the beginning, Don't let your mother know of any thing you wish to do This is because women can be very stupid. She might kill you.

Don't just fold your hands and watch somebody mesmerizing your family. Arise and take action. Choose to undergo any of these things I tell you and it would be done. Do you have any questions or you want to contribute? Please comment below!