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You don’t need to be ready for kids yet to know he’ll be a great dad. Here are all the ways you can tell he will make a wonderful father in addition to a wonderful boyfriend. The best indicators are:
1. his family members and type of family.
Usually if the family is fragmented and its members are not close, then he has not grown up with close people and is unlikely to value a close family.
Look at his dad. What kind of dad is he? If he is a hands on dad then his boy will most likely be the same. We parent as we were parented.
Listen to him speak. If he does not find it hard to dis his parents then leave him alone. A man who values his own parents has a good attitude about being a parent
What is his relationship with his mother? If he thinks mothers are important people he will think wives are important too. He will see you as a wife and a potential mother.
Look at how he views his sisters. Men who respect women do so generally and it started from home. A man who was abandoned by his mother as a child will usually view women with suspicion.
additionally, a man who treats his mother, sister, and other females with respect is also a man who will likely treat you well. This is true: If he treats his mom badly, he will eventually treat you badly, if he treats him mom well, he will treat you well. Ive seen it happen with every couple
2. look for a man who puts you first and is willing to do things for you, even if it means going out of his way. for example: a man who brings you soup when you're sick, holds doors for you, remembers the little details, etc.
3. Also, look for a man who is responsible, but can laugh off the little things. it's very important for a husband and father to understand the importance of being responsible about finances, work, the house, etc. but can also let the little things, like sticky fingers on the furniture, go.
4. Has he babysat before? can he relate to children? does he enjoy being around them or does he consider screaming children annoying? My father always said that you could tell the true demeanor of people when you bring them around children. See how he reacts with toddlers and little kids.
5. Seriously, a good father is someone who’s generous, not stingy, says Greer. So if you’re out to dinner and he doesn’t even pretend to offer you a taste, then reaches over and grabs something off your plate, that’s probably not a good sign. That tells you that they’re looking out for themselves and they’re more concerned with taking care of themselves than sharing and reciprocating with you.
6. The Two of You Have a Great Relationship
Assess your own relationship and make sure it’s really solid and really in a good place. You’ve got to have the relationship first, because having kids will put a stress on you. All good on the coupledom front? If you’re really in love, if you have good communication, if you really respect each other, if there’s a really solid friendship, if you have a lot of fun together, and you both want to have children,” she says, chances are it’s going to work out really nicely.
and, most importantly of all, trust your gut. there are no sure-fire, 100% ways to determine whether or not a man will be a good husband/father. but likely, you'll just know
Can you detect any other signs in men? Comment below
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