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Should a wife tells her husband about old lovers?
This Question can be subdivided into two (2):
1. Is it ok for a lady to tell her man graphic details of her past? Should a man try to know?
2. How do men feel when they know the woman they are marrying has a dirty past?
Women think differently from men. If a man tells a woman about his past,she feels the urge to hold him closer and guard him closely.
As for men, what is going on in their mind is if she is capable of doing the same to him.
It's a tough call, best not to tell him anything. If he hears from outside and asks you,then tell him the truth. If he cannot handle it, then too bad. By the way what a woman does in her past life prior to meeting you is not admissible in the court of love. The circumstances could have been different and even though it might reflect on her behaviour it does not mean she will do the same with you.
It's not a right for a man to know about his wife's / girlfriend's past, it's a priviledge. If a girl feels loved, secure and valued by her man, she'll tell him, without any prompting from him. And, if the man's worth his weight in gold, he wouldn't judge her based on her past.
Besides, a decent man has no business listening to what her wife/others have to say
I reckon a healthy balance (that's for those few who are healthy and balanced), is to simply get the headlines; e.g. I had 3 boyfriends while in Uni. I got disvirgined at 16, and I once cheated.
Afterall, you dont want to keep bumping into her many ex-boyfirends, when all the while you hoped she had only ever had one ex-boyfriend. Dont go further, cos you wont like what you hear.
This topic make me remember a nollywood movie in the past. She is a prostitute, but this guy was hell bent in marrying her. When his junior brother came back from abroad and still tell him the nasty things the girl has done in the past, he still maintain that he would marry her. However, the bubble burst when the brother revealed that, the girl not only was a prostitute, but that she have also slept with a white man dog while back in school. That was too much for the lover boy, even though the girl hide that bit about her past from the guy.
I can also tell you a story of a close friend whose young marriage is facing difficult times because one of the couple cannot handle the past of the other. The one complaining is even the one that voluntarily reveal the sex escapades of whiteman in the past life to the other couple.
if your man demands to know then u can tell him. But the fact remains that not everyone can handle the truth and no one is a saint either. You can decide to blame everyone but can u really stand up to tell your spouse all. Some truth are better in the past at least to avoid heartbreak.
talking is cheap but it’s will pay! so just shut your mouth. If and whenever he/she finds out, hands up and tell the bitter truth. some pasts are not so easy to rush-n-tell. You tell now and things are fine now don’t mean you’ve seen and heard the last of your past and that you are now clean and clear. Beware sometime in the future it may be used against you- believe me its will be so painful. when you do not talk don’t mean you have lied
I believe whatever happened in the past should remain in the past. What he doesn't know won't hurt him.live the present now and enjoy it while it lasts.
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